Few emotions are more confused than sadness in the ’emotional dictionary’ of 21st century residents, often confused with other ‘diseases of the soul’, such as depression. In a world that has always been dominated by the demand to be like (or at least appears to be) a castanate, we have ceased to consider it a natural state of the soul and so can know it, understand it, and Being able to ‘cultivate’ it has stopped doing ‘cultivation’. reveals. To end that injustice, Susan Cain, That You Destroy With Your Book ‘The Power of Introverts’ (RBA Editors), published ‘Agridulus’ (‘Bitterness’, Come, Bitterness or Bitterness in Origins, ed. Urano), where that good name returned Claims to do and attributes to suffering.
But first, let’s center the shot. For Tiffany Watt Smith, Sadness, author of the wonderful ‘Atlas of Human Emotions’, “is one of the emotions closest to” Resignation still Accept, This is where the irreversible happens: when we lose something or someone and nothing can be done to get it back.” And he later tells us that “along with feelings of fulfillment and acceptance, its calmness and even its indifference, the sadnessUnlike depression, there is a important part of our life. It is the process by which we muster up the courage to adapt to one new version of ourselves after another. Harm hey despair It protects us and gives us strength when we rest.”
In short: sadness should be embraced, as suggested by Susan Cain, in order to turn it into “creativity, excellence, and love.” “The word nostalgia etymologically refers to ‘withdrawal pain’, the pain of not being able to return. What makes you suffer matters to you. It hurts precisely because you care. Hence, most of the pain The good response is to immerse yourself deeply in “your empathy, which is the exact opposite of what most of us want to do. What we want is to avoid the pain: to keep the sharpness away by caring for the sweet little thing.”
benefits of sadness
To begin with, the author tells us, various investigations reveal that the sadness have the power make bonds among the people. the key is in us compassionate attitude, says Cain, “not only in any relationship between human beings, but in the bond between mother and child, with that eagerness that prompts a mother to respond to the cries of her children.” that Compassin often produces a mixture of tie You the sadness (Like when we read news about abuse, for example, we don’t need to know who feels them) for which, the authors write, we are ‘programmed’.
On the other hand, there are several indications that the sadness And this creativity They are two human manifestations that have more than one close relationship (in fact, if you remove sadness from the equation of artistic and literary creation, you probably eliminate 75% of artistic and literary creation at the same time). “People who work in the art world are eight to 10 times more likely to experience mood disorders compared to the rest,” he writes, based on data from a 1993 study in the field of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins University. Several other investigations point in the same direction, and although interpretations have varied, the most widespread theories. that would be ” disaster causes a tendency to withdraw inner world of imagination” or that “the emotional shock lead to increase oath And this stubbornness that some people apply to their creative performance.
it ‘reverse’ the sadness one in creative experience It can also be done massively. When we explain our tendency to listen to sad musical themes, it is in a sort of attempt to tune out the sadness the creator expresses. Therefore, Cain explicitly recommends, “If you can’t get rid of the pain, turn it into a creative offering…
being sad brings you closer to the transcendent
Among the experts with whom Cain interviewed to create his book are David Bryce Yaden, According to behavioral disorder researchers, the “dark” moments of our lives, such as divorce, job changes, or even death, are the times when we are most likely to experience oneness and transcendence. . “Yaden’s work explains why there isn’t exactly ‘sad’ music; why it lies in breakdown but points to transcendence.” In other words, listening to sad songs would not be an exercise in masochism, as we often assume, but a form of inner growth, a path towards some sort of transformation.
sadness brings you closer to success
“Ability to Accept” hard feelings -not just observe them, not just take a deep breath, so as not to panic, but accept them as they appear and without judging them- appear to be associated with it again and again long term success” Cain writes, explaining how during an experiment conducted against the background of a job interview, people who habitually accept negative feelings is shown low stress level. Similarly, he explains, people who allow themselves to feel unhappy, however paradoxical it may seem, to be more Thankful You enjoy life more
In short, it comes to the author to say, although it is difficult to do so in a world that does not understand suffering, to accept oneself. Meet You Be Approved yourself in all its dimensions. And this is the only way to completeness and inner peace. Finally, Tiffany Watt Smith also reminds us, “We must not forget that, as was known in the sixteenth century, if we view sadness as an unknown and strange creature, we will be less resilient to it.” , and will be more vulnerable to the most severe manifestations.” As a result”. The warner is not a traitor.